Well my bro came over this morning and we got to it.
when we put the meter on the battery it showed it was almost dead, it was making a horrible sound when you cranked it but we actually got it started with a good jump but the battery was losing the charge from 11v to 10 to 8 etc..
ruled out the starter, the new solenoid i got was actually messed up so put the old one back in, new battery cables were also not needed.
went and grabbed a new alternator ($80) and new voltage regulator. installed those two and still nothing. battery was still losing charge so my bro was like "wheres the fuse box?" i have the centech harness so it in the glove box, well the alternator fuse was blown, replaced that and guess what? battery is still pretty low, but alternator is charging it nicely, took it for an hour long cruise and now it starts on a dime, idles nice and way better power to the lights etc.
so heres my little list
NOT NEEDED BUT BOUGHT:
new battery $90
new battery cables $45
new solenoid $22
new voltage regulator $20
DIDNT REALLY NEED BUT DOESNT HURT:
new alternator $80
ONLY THING I REALLY NEEDED
fuse $1
thanks for all the ideas though. when she lit up that sound just warms my heart....