I'm not a fan of split lock-washers. That having been said, I am a fan of threadlocker, proper torque values and quality hardware. As for flange head versus hardened washers, there are pros and cons to each, but they essentially serve the same purpose of distributing their clamping force over a large area and preventing the head of the fastener from sinking/embedding into softer materials during installation/removal and/or over time with use. Max torque will vary depending on the grade of the fastener and to what percentage of yield you torque to, but 37 ft-lb would be typical for Grade 5 and 52 ft-lb would be common for Grade 8 UNC 7/16-14 fasteners.