So based on what you guys are saying I just need to take the connectors apart and put them together color for color?
No. It means you need to buy a "blue" module to match the new harness.
It’s. 1974. Where is this grommet located. What is the easiest fix?
The "grommet" as it's known is actually a wire strain relief, and it's the plastic block where all the wires come out of the module and go to their connectors.
In your pic it's mostly whiteish under all the old age. See if you can wipe that area down and determine it's original color.
The color/type of module can probably be determined by the orientation of the wires too, but I don't have the patience for that and it's so easy to go by the color of the "grommet" anyway.
Also if I use the harness there are still all the wires from the original harness. What happens with them?
What original harness? You made it sound like you have both a Painless chassis harness AND a Painless Dura Spark harness.
If correct, you don't use any of the old harness.
There’s a black wire and a black/green wire in one connector and on the 4 wire side there’s a purple,orange, white, red. Those don’t match any of those diagrams
Very likely they don't match because it's not a blue module
You don't need to worry about the wire colors here because you're not going to be using that old module. At least not if you want to keep things simple.
Yes, you can likely (but not guaranteed) re-pin the connectors, but only if the new and old connectors are keyed alike. Can you insert the new Painless connectors into the old ones on the module? If so then if you can figure out how to remove the wires and re-orient them, go for it.
But I would not bother. Just spend the 30 bucks on a new blue module.
Or better yet spend the bigger bucks for a Motorcraft unit, or go to a junkyard and see if you can find a blue module that looks original from Ford.
Paying for the cheap ones is a crapshoot with the quality (or lack thereof) of today's parts.
Paul