That's normal and it doesn't matter which one gets connected to which. The NSS is just an open/close (or on/off) switch and is not "normally" polarity sensitive.
All it's doing is breaking the connection to the starter relay so that you can't start the engine unless the trans is in the proper shift positions.
Since Optishift bothers to mark their wires specifically, it is a good idea to use that and trace which of the #919's comes from the ignition switch and which side goes to the starter relay on the fender. Assuming you're still using one that is?
So just like the backup lamps, on a standard NSS connection you can connect it to either Red w/blue wire. In the Painless harness both are labeled as #919 for this reason.
That said, you do have an "ignition switch" side and a "starter relay/solenoid" side on the Painless harness. So connect whichever side comes from the ignition switch to the Optishift's "ign start" wire, and the one that goes out to the starter relay to the "start relay" wire of the Optishift.
The "relay" in this case is what most people call the starter solenoid. Since it is in fact just a big heavy duty relay, that's likely why Optishift people have labeled it as such.
The "12v in run" wire simply needs a keyed-on wire connected to it.
I'll check the Painless instructions to make sure I didn't lead you down a path of destruction, but it seems pretty straightforward based on their wording.
Paul