Dan,
Kanter helped me on a previous post in the Chat section if you want to check out my post. I think he is running the same set up you want.
I will be running the same setup you are looking at except I am looking at 35" tires.
At this point in my searching I am thinking about getting the rims I want but put spacers behind the wheels. From what I have read even if you found a 9" or 10" wide rim with 3.5 or 3.75 of back spacing (I have not been able to find one) you will have the same concerns as if you ran a spacer.
From my research the concern is the wheels center of gravity being out to far with or without a spacer and it may cause the ball joints to wear out sooner.
I got this information from this site:
http://www.4x4review.com/products/suspension/spacers.asp
For me, I want the 17" rim and will deal with the ball joints if they become an issue. I think the only way you could come close is by getting a 17X8 wheel with 4" of backspacing but I don't know if an 8" wide wheel will be an issue for the big tires we are looking at.