Well crap, I just knew you were going to ask that!
I'm right with you're previous decisions in fact. If I wanted just that little bit of extra pull off-road or when fully (over)loaded for a weekend trip, I'd go with the 4.56 and freeway rpm be damned.
If I was spending more time on the highway and it was a driver (maybe even a daily driver) and a lot of that was out on good ole I-5, I'd stick with 4.11's.
If I just wasn't sure, I'd compromise with the 4.30 and just decide to be happy everywhere.
But for my own case the answer is pretty straightforward because an overdrive transmission was always in the cards. Whether an NV3550 for the '71, or the 4R70W in the '68. With the 4R70 I actually do have 4.56 gears with tiny 30" tires, but can still roll along the highway comfortably at 2600 rpm. Very stout off-road, hard pulling from a standstill, but still somewhat freeway friendly.
With yours remaining a 1:1 top gear, you're more interested in the compromise.
So here's one take on it in your case. Basically saying the same things we've all said over the last 30+ posts. If you're going to travel up the highway occasionally and willing to not try to hit 75mph each time, stick with the 4.56 and be happy on the trail.
If you really do like to travel in fast company, that little bit lower rpm the 4.30 offers may be just the key to your sanity.
The 4.11 is out for now I think because you said you wanted it biased more to off-road than the street and did not have the whole setup done.
So with all that you've said so far, I'd go with the 4.56 and be done.
And if you ever decide to run a larger tire, or an overdrive transmission, you're set and never have to think about gearing again.
See? I can still do wishy-washy with the best of them!%)
Paul