Yeah, those spindles can be a bear.
The exact procedure for the front bearings is often misrepresented on the internet as well.
And the 70 lb torque value is a good "minimum" to use. I've never had one not work at 70, but the range over the years has ranged from 70 to 120 or so. I use 80-100 generally.
The steps are thusly...
1. Inner "adjusting" nut with the little pin pointed outward has a two-stage setting:
1a. Initially torqued to 50 ft lbs while spinning the wheel/rotor. This seats the cup/race and squeezes excess grease out of the rollers for a more accurate setting.
1b. Back off the nut a quarter turn/90°.
Ignore how loose the bearings are now. That will change.
2. Slide the lock ring on with the inner tab in the groove on the spindle obviously. The holes are slightly offset, so if one does not line up with the pin you can flip the ring over and try again. If it still does not line up and pop right in a hole, you can reach around the ring and turn the inner nut just enough to line up with the nearest hole.
If it's really close, it usually doesn't really matter if you loosen or tighten the nut.
3. Torque outer lock/jam nut to 80-100 lbs.
This final torque not only locks things in place, but it imparts enough force to literally stretch the spindle and tighten the wheel bearings from that very loose setting, to a free-play level of between .001" and .010" specification. Anywhere in between those two is fine.
When following this procedure as I outlined, mine has always fallen right about .006" as measured with a dial-indicator. Without fail.
And while you're making sure it's all in good shape, and your hardware sounds like it was installed incorrectly, verify the condition of a few things.
First make sure the pin on the inner nut is still intact and long enough to engage one of the holes in the ring. Not sure how it didn't get wiped off when the outer nut was up against it, but if you see it's still there, great. They're very often wiped out from incorrect installations.
Next make sure the locking ring's tab is not worn off to the point it won't stay inside the groove on the spindle. If you can line it up with the pin and still spin it around by hand, and it spins the inner nut, you must replace it. Hopefully if that's the case, it turns out to be only the lock ring and not the groove that is worn.
A little wear and tear on the notches in the nuts is not grounds for replacement. But if they're really buggered up it can make it hard to use the wrench.
Good luck. Sounds like it's coming along.
Paul