#1 is the best option
#2 is after the thermostat, so it will read cold if the thermosat sticks shut. Will also stay cold until the thermostat opens then will suddenly jump up to operating temp. This port is designed for emissions control equipment so it will activate only after then engine is warmed up.
#3 will not read correctly. The general water path is out of the pump, through the block, up the back of the block into the head through the head to the front of the engine, out of the heads into the intake, through the thermostat housing and around the radiator. That port is located after the block and just as the water starts to enter the heads. The heads are the important part to keep cool and do the most heating of the water. You are measuring the water temp before the final heating. It will read too cold. This is a good choice for the factory to plumb in an EGR cooler. It isn't a "hot" water port, only a "warm" water port.