Wow. Uuuuum, wow. After I got over my inital bout of nausea, I figured I have the composure to post.
Man, that really sucks. I feel like my dog just got hit by a car, and it's not even mine anymore.
A few thoughts, as I live with a lawyer.
Don't give them ANY numbers until they get back to you. don't try to screw them, but don't give them any ammunition either. I'd STRONGLY consider talking to a lawyer, if for nothing else to know what to not do.
Grille, radiator support, fenders, inner fenders, radiator, fan, probably the water pump, and a bunch of other things are ruined. Check the door alignment and tailgate alignment and see if it pushed the whole body back. I would bet it did.
See if the bumper is bent. that 1/4" seemed to hold up well, but it may be tweaked.
Don't forget the cost of POR, line-x; and those were all NOS panels, not the cheapie replacements.
Check the steering, steering box, column, etc.
Check the radius arms; especially the wristed one.
Check springs and mounts on front end.
Those lights are the upgraded Cibie w/ the hella relay kit; dont' let 'em throw stockers back in.
If it tweaked the tub all the way to the firewall, I suspect they will total it.
For gods sake, if they total it make sure you end up with it; I figured parts alone I could have parted it for about $20k+, but I couldn't bring myself to tear my work apart.
I'm out of town right now on the road, so I'm not very reachable; but leave me a message Hayes and I'll try to call you back.
I'm sorry man; that's hard for me to see, I can't imagine what you're feeling.